I help couples who are stuck, disconnected, or feel like they're barely holding it together.
Even strong relationships hit rough patches.
Maybe you’re stuck in the same argument loop, feeling more like roommates than partners, or trying to rebuild after trust was broken. These moments don’t always mean the end. More often, they’re a signal that something needs to shift.
In couples therapy we look at the cycle you’re caught in, and create space to actually hear each other.
You’ll learn how to show up with more clarity, accountability, care, and rebuild the connection that brought you together in the first place.
Even strong relationships hit rough patches.
Maybe you’re stuck in the same argument loop, feeling more like roommates than partners, or trying to rebuild after trust was broken.
These moments don’t always mean the end. More often, they’re a signal that something needs to shift.
In couples therapy we look at the cycle you’re caught in, and create space to actually hear each other.
You’ll learn how to show up with more clarity, accountability, care, and rebuild the connection that brought you together in the first place.
Welcome to therapy with Jessie
- Stop having those same arguments that never seem to resolve
- Develop tools to communicate effectively
- Rebuild trust after betrayal or infidelity
- Feel safe and connected again
- Reestablish physical intimacy
- Explore alternative concepts of partnership
- Truly see and understand each other...maybe for the first time
Therapy for Couples Who Want To:
This isn’t about finding the “bad” partner
versus the “good” one.
It’s about understanding the cycle that keeps you stuck and learning how to break it together.
Structure + Action Items
Sessions are structured with intention, insights, and tools you can bring into daily life so change shows up outside of our time together.
An attachment-based approach that helps you understand the emotions driving conflict, so you can move out of old cycles and build safer, more connected ways of relating.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Gottman Techniques
Humanistic & Relational Approaches
Research-backed communication tools that help you de-escalate conflict, repair after hard moments, and build emotional safety
Focusing on who you are as people, not just what’s broken, to foster empathy, acceptance, and authentic connection.
We name what’s not working, set shared goals, and track progress as you move forward. Clear goals help you get out of the cycle of endless talking and into
real change.
We set shared goals, and track progress as you move forward. Clear goals help you get out of the cycle of endless talking and into real change.
Goal-Oriented Strategies
I create a space where both partners are equal. I’m conscious of power dynamics, emotional safety, and making sure each person can speak honestly.
Couples therapy is never about blame. It’s about clarity and movement.
The problem is the pattern, not the people.
We’ll use a combination of:
I create a space where both partners are equal.
I’m conscious of power dynamics, emotional safety, and making sure each person can speak honestly.
Couples therapy is never about blame. It’s about clarity and movement.
The problem is the pattern, not the people.
We’ll use a combination of:
How I Do couples Therapy
Here's the Difference IN...
✔ More trust and understanding
✔ Renewed physical intimacy and closeness
✔ Hope about the future of the relationship
✔ Playfulness and shared joy again
✔ Greater emotional resilience as a couple
✔ Tools and skills to handle future misunderstandings
✔ A deeper sense of safety and emotional closeness
✔ More trust and understanding
✔ Renewed intimacy and closeness
✔ Hope about the future of the relationship
✔ Playfulness and shared joy again
✔ Tools and skills to handle future misunderstandings
After Working With Me Couples Report:
We finally stopped having the same fight over and over and it feels like we are doing something different now!
What Couples SAY About Therapy with jessie
“I remember again why we got together”
- Ryan + Jordon, Long Beach CA
- Ryan + Jordon,
Long Beach CA
It's not too late. It's not too broken.
It's not too late.
It's not too broken.
I’m Jessie Withers, MA, an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and Associate Professional Clinical Counselor.
I work with couples because I know how much relationships matter.
I’m currently married but I’ve also been through a difficult divorce, so I get it. I don’t take this work lightly.
I’ve seen how relationship dynamics affect not just partners, but entire families.
In sessions, I bring depth and directness, but I don’t believe therapy has to be all heaviness. With me, you’ll find humor when it helps, compassion when it’s needed most, and clear direction so you always feel like we’re moving forward.
Couples therapy isn’t about picking sides. It’s about balance, equality, about slowing down enough to see the cycle you’re caught in and learning how to step out of it together.
With approaches like Gottman and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we’ll focus on repairing disconnection, rebuilding trust, and creating safer, more connected ways of relating.
I’m Jessie Withers, MA, an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and Associate Professional Clinical Counselor.
I work with couples because I know how much relationships matter.
I’m currently married but I’ve also been through a difficult divorce, so I get it... I don’t take this work lightly.
I’ve seen how relationship dynamics affect not just partners, but entire families.
In sessions, I bring depth and directness, but I don’t believe therapy has to be all heaviness.
With me, you’ll find humor when it helps, compassion when it’s needed most, and clear direction so we’re moving forward.
Couples therapy isn’t about picking sides.
It’s about balance, equality, about slowing down enough to see the cycle you’re caught in and learning how to step out of it together.
With approaches like Gottman and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we’ll focus on repairing disconnection, rebuilding trust, and creating safer, more connected ways of relating.
Jessie Withers MA, AMFT#155028, APCC# 19353
Supervised by Sarah Iaccarino, LMFT #128686
she/her/hers
Jessie Withers, MA
Meet The therapist behind the COUPLES work
- M.A. in Clinical Psychology, Antioch University Los Angeles
- IFSCA -Level 1 Stepping Stones -Internal Family Systems (IFS)
- IFSCA -Level 2 Stepping Deeper -Internal Family Systems (IFS)
- ICEEFT- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Externship
- EMDRIA-Approved EMDR S.A.F.E. Training for Trauma Resolution
- Somatic Experiencing International Foundations
- The Vancouver School of Narrative Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT)
Education, Credentials, and Trainings
Jessie Withers MA,
AMFT#155028, APCC# 19353
Supervised by Sarah Iaccarino, LMFT #128686
- M.A. in Clinical Psychology, Antioch University Los Angeles
- IFSCA -Level 1 Stepping Stones -Internal Family Systems (IFS)
- IFSCA -Level 2 Stepping Deeper -Internal Family Systems (IFS)
- ICEEFT- Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Externship
- EMDRIA-Approved EMDR S.A.F.E. Training for Trauma Resolution
- Somatic Experiencing International Foundations
- The Vancouver School of Narrative Therapy
- Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT)
Education, Credentials, and Trainings
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Contact Me
Free Consultation
Send a quick message or fill out the contact form. No need to say it perfectly.
Send a quick message or fill out the contact form.
We’ll have a 30-minute ZOOM call to see if we’re a good fit.
First Session
This is where we start talking about The cycles and What’s been keeping you stuck.
We will talk about The cycles and What’s been keeping you stuck.
Ongoing Therapy
We’ll meet regularly so you can practice new tools, repair old patterns, and grow together.
Answers to Your Questions
frequently asked
How do we know if couples therapy is right for us?
How do we know if couples therapy is right for us?
Couples therapy isn’t only for relationships in crisis. Many couples come in because they’re feeling stuck in patterns of disconnection, communication breakdowns, or ongoing conflict that never seems to resolve.
Others use therapy as a proactive step to strengthen their bond, rebuild trust, or navigate big life changes together including opening the relationship, or moving toward consciously un-coupling.
If you’re asking the question, it’s usually a sign that therapy could give you the tools and support you need.
Many clients find that individual sessions offer valuable insight that supports their relationship work. That said, it’s important to know that I can see you individually during or after couples therapy, but not the reverse. Once we begin individual therapy, I can’t ethically transition into being your couples therapist. You and I would have an established therapeutic relationship, and it wouldn't be fair to your partner to come into a dynamic that is already established.
If you have questions about what would be most supportive for your goals, we can talk through it together!
It’s very common for one partner to feel more motivated than the other. I don’t take sides. My role is to create a safe, balanced space where both of you feel heard. Often, even the more reluctant partner finds relief once they experience a session and realize it’s not about blame, but about building understanding and connection.
